“Their conviction that relationships are unlikely to endure… was entirely unaffected by the amount of time they spent with each parent.”

The facts available from schools and therapists overwhelmingly substantiate the report of this study. Children pay a much greater cost, and carry greater burdens than the adults involved in marital problems realise.

Regression in schoolwork and unusual, even unacceptable behavioural problems are often manifested and noted by teachers; these can lead to the need for referral to therapists and a whole train of circumstances that will hound a child for the rest of his/her life.

There are no winners in marital disputes that end in divorce – with the exception of the lawyers.

Researching Reform

A then groundbreaking 25 year study published in 2004, which followed 131 children after their parents divorced makes some bold suggestions which many will view as controversial.

Its central conclusion is that parental divorce negatively impacts a child’s ability to love and be loved within a lasting relationship.

Its key findings  include:

  • The economic implications of divorce often left parents scrambling to earn income, which meant less time spent with their children. As a result, children felt neglected during periods of their childhood when they needed their parents most
  • Children’s views of relationships were affected: they took the view that personal relationships were unreliable, no matter how much contact they had with each parent
  • Loneliness and fear of abandonment were significantly increased in the children who took part in the study
  • A strong concern for separated parents and who would take care of those parents also featured
  • Children were able to…

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